At some point we made our intimacy a priority. We realized that we wanted to make an intimate life. We didn’t just do it to be provacative, though we are very provocative. We didn’t just do it because we were horny, though I would say through our work we are very, very horny for each other. We began methodically improving our sex lives because we discovered that our love languages of physical touch and quality time are attended to, in their core, in physical intimacy.
It doesn’t matter how many positions you master; if you don’t master the right moves, you are basically jerking off into your woman, and believe me, to her, that gets old.
My girlfriend and I have been discussing what each of us is thinking before, during and after sex.
You are lying in bed. The two of you in underwear. Between now and culminating mutual orgasm…your thoughts take two different roads.
Very simply, sometimes instead of only rubbing my girlfriend’s clitoris during touching, I sometimes gently tap the hood and the tip of the clitoris.
We aren’t really into pain, but we are into feeling good during sex using intimate means. Using devices such as nipple clamps allows us to increase that intimacy through the intimacy of vulnerability. Every once in a while, we add something to the mix. In this case, we purchased some nipple clamps.
This is just a technique I tried the other day, and it worked beyond anything I expected. It technically could work with any pair of approaches that can be done at once, but I used licking and touching.
Sex fact: It’s neither good nor bad that men are wired to to have sex, while women are wired to have intimacy. But it is within my control to give my girlfriend a sense of bliss, and not just a sense of obligation to get me off. So we tested something out.