At some point we made our intimacy a priority. We realized that we wanted to make an intimate life. We didn’t just do it to be provacative, though we are very provocative. We didn’t just do it because we were horny, though I would say through our work we are very, very horny for each other. We began methodically improving our sex lives because we discovered that our love languages of physical touch and quality time are attended to, in their core, in physical intimacy.
It doesn’t matter how many positions you master; if you don’t master the right moves, you are basically jerking off into your woman, and believe me, to her, that gets old.
My girlfriend and I have been discussing what each of us is thinking before, during and after sex.
You are lying in bed. The two of you in underwear. Between now and culminating mutual orgasm…your thoughts take two different roads.
While there may be some things a vibrator can do that you will never be able to master, what it comes down to is your intimacy.
You are not only becoming intimate with her. You are also becoming intimate with her arousal.
Good blow jobs can become great. For those with a standard sex life, where blow jobs are at least semi-regularly part of the routine, these discussion points can help you get the best blow job and make her feel amazing.
Sex fact: It’s neither good nor bad that men are wired to to have sex, while women are wired to have intimacy. But it is within my control to give my girlfriend a sense of bliss, and not just a sense of obligation to get me off. So we tested something out.
To be attentive is the holy grail of a good relationship. Anticipate her needs and wants, and pay attention to her likes and dislikes. Show her she is important and a priority. Here are some ideas to get started: