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In the world of sex, blow jobs have a special place. 

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My Girlfriend Wants You to Know That Your Girlfriend Would Love Giving You a Better Blow-Job

My girlfriend loves giving me blow jobs.  She wants to give me multiple blow jobs in one session, and she is just as excited about making me come as she is about just feeling me in her mouth and playing around with her tongue.  Even when in refractory period she toys with my penis lightly. Sometimes this can extend for up to an hour of play and pleasure. Through consistent communication, her blow jobs that were always stellar went to new levels, and this gave her even more pleasure when giving them.

Not only do I count myself a lucky guy, but I consider this an opportunity to help you have the conversation about oral sex with your girlfriend.  Of course, if your girlfriend is completely opposed to oral sex, I wouldn’t push the issue.  But for those with a standard sex life, where blow jobs are at least semi-regularly part of the routine, these discussion points can help you get the best blow job and make her feel amazing.

Hell, if you use this communication style for blow jobs, you can also use it for any kind of improvement.

The Way a Blow Job Feels for a Man is Uniquely Distinct from Vaginal Penetration. 

The next time she gives you a blow job, tell her how good it feels, and use clear descriptions.  Tell her about her hands, the suction, the amount she has in her mouth. Tell her you want her naked. Give clear details about what she is doing right. While there is a time and place to discuss improvement, it is during the act that you should really only highlight her strengths. That being said, if she asks you in the middle of the act, be honest.

Many Women Absolutely Love Giving Blow Jobs.

I love going down on my girlfriend. And I have always wanted her to get pleasure during our intimate moments. It was hard to understand that she would feel the same way. I used to think maybe it was a chore for women…and maybe for some it is. But eventually she convinced me that she really did love giving me blow jobs. Women love pleasing their men when men treat them right. This idea was confirmed by reading this article from a fellow sex blogger.

The Process

Men like their blow jobs in different ways.  During my first orgasm of the day, I prefer a softer, wetter blow job.  But as we enter into multiple sexual sessions or orgasms throughout the day, I like it harder, a tighter grip of the hand and suction.

  1. Be prepared.  First consider what makes the best blow job for you.  Consider the imagery, the technique, the hands, the lips, the tongue, even the throat.  Consider whether you like sitting, lying down or standing best.  Think about whether she should be naked or not, or if you want her to kneel over you.
  2.  While she is going down on you, compliment one or two good parts of her technique.  Rather than sitting down and discussing blow jobs as if they were a problem, begin with what is working in the current blow jobs.
  3. Identify different parts of the blow job and how you like them, and break it down for her.  For instance, “In the beginning, I like it soft and wet…in the end I like more grip and suction.”  Phrase Or more softly, “Babe, I really love it when in the beginning you…and near the end you…”
  4. Compliment her after by saying, “You always gave amazing blow jobs, but they seem to be getting better because…”
  5. Don’t forget to text her later at the right moment to reinforce what you like.  Warm her up with some intimately sensual texts, like I describe here.  Then text her imagery of how she looks giving you oral sex, how good she looks, how much it turns you on to see her do one thing and another.
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4 thoughts on “Blow Jobs and Great Communication

  1. heyimheidi says:

    Awesome article! And AJ, you definitely are one very lucky guy!;) Thanks for including me!
    Heidi

  2. I love getting feedback and I love it when a guy lets me know vocally that he likes it. Guys who are stone silent are a real turn off.

  3. AJ Rum says:

    Thanks for the input!!

  4. AJ Rum says:

    The luckiest 😉

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