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Great Sex Needs Great Maintenance

sex exercise

 

My sexual frequency with my girlfriend varies. Sometimes we have sex three times a week, and sometimes we have sex three times before breakfast. There are a few key aspects of your self that you need to maintain to have amazing sex regularly. And I have developed a steady routine for optimal sexual health.

Remember, I do not recommend sex for the sake of fucking or releasing tension.  My approach is an intimacy centered one.  The more frequent the sex, the more opportunities for intimacy.

Three Areas of Sexual Health – Fresh, Flexible, Focused

There are three factors to keep in mind when considering your sexual health.

  1. Staying fresh in both energy and erection
  2. Staying flexible in your body movements
  3. Staying focused in your mental state

FRESH: For Energy

This routine is simple and can be inexpensive if you shop around.  It is good for heart and kidney health, as well as balancing the water in your system, all of which not only keep you healthy, but help you fuck better.

  • Every morning I make sure to eat a solid breakfast…the less greasy the better. More proteins and vegetables than carbs, and only good carbs as often as possible.
  • I drink a mix of green tea and chinese herbal powders instead of coffee.
  • I take a multivitamin every day.
  • Try to drink a green juice and a juice high in potassium like orange juice coconut water.  I actually bought a great citrus juicer that I sort of mention in a blog post on being attentive, but I also reap the benefits of the juice.
  • Eat regularly with the same concept in mind of high protein and vegetables, and primarily good carbs.

FLEXIBLE: For a limber and strong body

I am not about sex acrobatics and multiple poisitions, unless she is asking for it.  That being said, here is what to consider in your sexual exercise.

  • Your hips do most of the work, as well as your lower back
  • Your heart health as well as lung health is essential for stamina as well as moving blood to your penis.

Here is my routine for exercise:

  • Hot Yoga 1-3 times a week: this gets you a limber body, stronger muscles, and a tolerance for high temperature movements
  • Jogging 3 miles, two times a week: this gets you breathing right, among other benefits

If you can’t do this, I would look for a way to move toward it.  It will benefit your striving toward a long life, and it’ll make you a machine in bed.

**You may notice I don’t lift weights.  I actually do semi-regularly, but a good hot yoga routine will accomplish some awesome body results that are longer lasting and healthier than weight lifting.

FOCUSED: For an optimal mental state

There are a few things you can focus on during sex that, with practice, can become powerful tools in achieving the attentive, amazing sex I keep talking about.  When I say with practice, I mean to try this things often to become better at focusing.

  • Listen to her breathing as she becomes more aroused
  • To last longer, breathe through your orgasm
  • Focus specifically on the sensations in your body, how each body part feels to be in contact with her
  • Enter very slowly, and move away very slowly
  • Practice light touch to practice patience

 

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2 thoughts on “Fuck Better Even Better – My Sex Health Routine

  1. OK AJ here’s a leftfield question on behalf of one of my lovers. He is over 55 and is starting to experience erectile dysfunction. He is fit and a healthy weight. Any suggestions? The whole condom thing has become a real problem as he doesn’t seem able to orgasm with them, or even the putting on or stop/starting often means he loses his erection. I haven’t experienced these problems with younger men, except those who are porn-fucked – and then it’s a different sort of problem. I’d love to see your advice 🙂

  2. AJ Rum says:

    Dearest Cougar (my new colleague and friend),

    I understand what you are asking, and I wonder if I am capable of answering.

    Primarily, and philosophically, it comes down to outlook. In my approach, intimacy and contemplation are what create ideal sexual environments. That is, everything in his life should be conducive to pleasing his lover. It should be purpose and form.

    Purpose is very personal, yet I think the purpose of intimacy is just as impactful in a life as a purpose of politics.

    Now, in accordance with form, I think there are three things to look into, either all three at once, or any combination of 1-3 of the ideas.

    1) Just to get this out of the way…a fit man beyond the age of 40 may need supplements to maintain blood flow (DHEA, arginine, etc.). I am not speaking prescription, rather, daily supplements. If these are out of the question, I would still refer you the the article on my sexual health that you referenced on my blog. Use the chinese herb mix I reference, and before sex, add some yohimbe to your tea.
    2) It is not just porn that interrupts erectile performance, but masturbation in general. All of his libido should go toward sex with you.
    3) Men are naturally aroused by an aroused woman, by her face and sounds. Have him build an approach to intimacy that gives you orgasm and leads to his ultimate penetration, but emphasis on ultimate, therefore last. Have him choose his favorite method. In my case, I give her oral sex, and after she comes multiple times I make love to her through penetration, and it carries us both into stronger orgasm.

    I would also say (for I have read your blog), it may be that he is trying to impress you or arouse you, yet he feels like he is competing with other lovers. In that case, I would say look into his love language and approach sex through that lens. This is the subject of a blog post I will be writing soon, and I think it is necessary.

    Ideally, intimacy, not sex is at the center of my approach. Everything I do leads to more intimacy. I think this may help. And, again, beyond that, being fit should prioritize being fit for sex, not just fit for showing physical prowess.

    I hope this helps, and thanks for the engagement 🙂

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